老婆发火了

Some people have been gossiping about the Jack Neo‘s incident. It ironically reminds me of the Tiger Wood’s incident in the sense that more women claimed to be linked to him after the 1st spotted light. Totally doesnt come as surprising as few rich men dont have affairs. Call me cynical. I’m merely surprised how stupid can he get by letting this cat out of the bag when he should have the money and power to keep this out of the screens or at least, low key.

Around me, beyond me have been too many of these affairs going on. The pain endured by the victimized husbands or wives, no matter they’re artistes, politicians or commoners, are the same. Just that, the former two have to address to the reporters by giving speeches and things like that, and it will affect their career and reputation. No matter on screen or off screen, people are bound to gossip about you.

Haven you heard of 好事不出门, 坏事传千里?

Anyway, I will be lying if none of these bad news have an impact on me. Whether these incidents happen on people I like or dont like, people I know or dont know, people I care or dont care, it’s a fact that they happened, in Singapore, around me. And sometimes I voiced out loud, if my hubby is to have an affair, it’s almost impossible to catch because he dont have a fixed location all the time and he probably visits a few houses everyday for sales. It’s just an afterthought.

It’s LOGICAL and UNDERSTANDABLE for me to have a considerable small amount of insecurities and impact whenever those bad news broke out. What I meant by small, are, for example;

BEFORE
I never answer my hubby’s handphone or touched it in any way. I never asked any questions too.

AFTER
1)Sometimes when his handphone have messages and beeps in my proximity(than him) or when he’s inconvenient/busy, I will shout the message to him.

2)And when there are messages/calls past 11pm, I will ASK who are they.

They might be somehow reassuring for me in some sense but to CALL it a CHECK, as claimed by my hubby, I feel it’s a little too much. For the things I’ve done(above), 1) is more of convenience and helping hand; by helping him to read and relay his message when he’s not convenient to do so(I’m not reading his messages behind his back). Secondly, by asking who are the callers/messengers after 11pm, I dont think it’s overboard! Call me kpo or what, I will wonder is anything urgent or serious.

BEFORE
I seldom asked about his whereabouts because I know he’s all over the island at different hours

AFTER
I did asked MORE frequently nowadays, especially where he is and what time he’s coming back

BECAUSE…………..

I’m planning to cook for him!

Friends know that ever since I got my own kitchen, I’ve been amazingly pleased by the opportunity to cook and with luck, I’ve managed to cook a few decent meals. In fact, I almost cook everyday now so long so there are stuff in the fridge, even when I’m alone at home. I’m sick of outside food.

SO, I asked where is his location and what time he’s coming back are just to ensure he have piping hot dinner to eat when he comes back.

I felt so wronged for being accused long the lines of “checking him” and “no confidence in him” and his righteous claim “when I have done nothing.”

FYI, while we were dating, all the way till after getting married, I seldom asked his location unless sometimes I need a lift to appointments or back home. I have also, never restricted him going out with his pals on weekdays nor weekends nor at any hour. He can go out on Sat 10.30pm and come back at 1.30am and I will still be watching tv at home, totally at ease. And usually, we can go without any calls nor messages 1 whole day until we saw each other at home.

So, I seriously feel I dont deserve the tantrums he threw on me last night, especially that 2 particular chinese words.

Yes I do have a teeny bit of insecurities but I have never burden you with them nor restricted you in any sense. I sure have confidence in you, else I wouldnt have married you but again, I have never trust anyone 100% totally, not even myself, and naturally, not even you. I believe in “no absolute” and “never say never” and it’s not against you. It’s not impossible but perhaps you have to work towards it.

I might be emo at times and I still feel my actions lean towards logic and practicality. To a wife who kept the house sparking clean, cooks you decent(I’m humble actually, my dishes are pretty good) meals, washed the dishes, still goes to work, never restricts you from going out on any day, fine with no Vday presents,

you still can say such a thing to me yesterday.

You ought to be ashamed of yourself.

It really doesnt pay to be a nice wife.

I will be back to my old chili padi self.

Cook your damn dinner or eat outside for all I care and I’ll never have the need to ask anything because I dont have to cook your share.

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